Yikes, where to begin on this topic. Growing up, I witnessed my mother keep it all together. I have no idea how she did it, she just made it seem extremely easy. Now I can almost assure you that she would have her moments of despair… let me tell you a little of my journey.
I am a daughter, a sister and a mother and I will never have it another way. My mother was brought up in a traditional Hispanic culture where she was expected to be submissive and basically cater to her husband (my father) in more than once way. She suffered , indeed she suffered until her last day alive. (more to come on our podcast- details, everything!) As I grew up – I always wondered what I would be as a wife but most importantly how was I ever supposed to take care of another life that depended on me? Now that was scary….
I gave birth to my first child at age 18 after a couple months of living with his father. My entire world changed including my fears which only grew bigger and bigger. I navigated this whole motherhood far away from home away from my own mother to orient me etc. Four years later, my daughter was born and another 4 years later, my youngest son.
Motherhood has been tough to say the least. Single motherhood holds the weight of criticism, stereotypes and so many obstacles which just makes everything even more difficult to overcome but it sure in heck is not impossible. Through our podcasts, I hall share the stories of my struggles including the pain which I unknowingly put my children through. Far from perfection but we got through it. We relied on each other every day and took one step at a time. Does the worry ever go away? Am I doing things right? Will they ever understand? Could I have done things better?
My children are older now, 24, 20 & 16 years old. How I wish I would have done so many things differently but you know what? At the same time, when I sit down and look through our pictures together- I witness how beyond blessed I have been. Share your stories… what are some subjects you would to hear about in our podcast coming soon. What are some obstacles you have encountered?
Warmest Regards,
Vera Aguayo-Becerra